The Top-most Personality that Helps us Choose Our Partner

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Every woman dreams of marrying someone like Virat Kohli or Tom Cruise and every man has a crush on Aishwarya Rai or Emma Watson. ‘Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder’-while the proverb proves to be 100% true one must also not deny the fact that it’s a person’s beauty that attracts someone in the first place to the individual when we don’t know anything about the individual’s characteristics or personality. Looks are indeed deceptive and once we get to know about the person striking changes in our thoughts and reactions become evident. The days when our parents went in search of the right mates for us is almost over as the younger generation has taken over the reins of this issue in their very own hands. The omnipresent dating sites and social media platforms provide the individual with abundant opportunities to get to know a person well enough before committing to a relationship. What exactly are the qualities that we expect from our partners in case we wish to commit to a relationship?
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While our guesses would be anything from beauty to money the results of a survey take us all by surprise but still keeps us contended that humanity has not yet lost its charm and values to some extent! Physical attraction is undeniable and each of us love to be the love of some handsome junk or a pretty woman but lust loses its charm in quite some time and so does money which cannot buy everything in life. So, what only is it that delights us all when we are in search of a life partner? That’s the survey done by a research team at Swansea University on over 2,700 college students across the globe. The survey was conducted keeping in mind that culture and our inner qualities too contribute a great deal towards our appreciation for various values in life.

The study looked at the dating preferences of students in the so-called Eastern (Singapore and Malaysia) and Western (Australia, Norway and U.K) countries offering up to 8 attributes on which each of them could spend ‘mate dollars’ (a fixed budget that could be used to buy these attributes) and the attributes included physical attractiveness, good financial prospects, kindness, humor, chastity, religiosity, the desire for children and creativity. There was nothing surprising in the fact that people belonging to the Western and Eastern countries displayed differences in their behavior but what was even more surprising was the fact that they also showed some remarkable similarities. The participants initially spent a great deal of money on all attributes but as days progressed it was kindness that occupied a vast portion of the budget allocated-almost 22-26% of the total budget was spent on kindness and a larger part on physical attractiveness and good financial prospects. Characteristics like creativity and chastity occupied not even 10% of the total funds. It was seen that men belonging to both Eastern and Western world allocated a huge sum of their budget on physical attractiveness compared to women (22% vs 16%) while women were much bothered about good financial prospects than men (18% vs 12%). It was also noticed that Western men prioritized on children comparatively. Married individuals have a greater lifespan compared to others on fulfilling certain criteria and for more information on this please visit the website www.firsteatright.com.

This research helps in establishing the fact that kindness is the No.1 virtue that can alter a person’s life and make it better. The set of people involved in the study are from radically different cultural backgrounds but there are some behaviors that are common despite such differences. This study is a solid proof that we still remain as individuals who are instilled with values and good qualities. The study also severs as a guidance for the younger generation today. Men can start improving their financial aspects for enhancing their attractiveness. Despite progress and scientific advancements its always emotions and good will that superpowers all other aspects in life.