There are a set of people who often run away from relatives fearing conspiracy, difference of opinion and betrayal. Some of them don’t even have a close friend or two to lean upon during distress nor are they active on social media. These guys solely rely on themselves and their souls are their best friend. While this might sound interesting presently, this will surely fail to do good in the long term as none of us can live in recluse forever.
Many of us must be aware by now that eating healthy food and exercising regularly are straightforward ways to live a longer life and improve well-being but not all of you would be conscious of the fact that healthy relationships too play a critical role in designing your health, lifespan and happiness. Absence of such realizations has brought us to a state where we pay people to act as our ‘comfort’ sources.
Look Past Bones & Muscles
Healthy relationships last a lifetime and help you throughout your life. Your bonding with people in the family, friends, neighbors, coworkers and others strongly impact your emotional and physical well-being. We are at the pinnacle of broken relationships and its high time that we as a society focus on improving our relationships and discard any hindrances that come in the way of good relationships. Failing to do this is as hazardous as ignoring the impact of smoking and obesity on health and wellbeing. During our childhood we are taught to form and maintain relationships with people around us. This process of learning does not stop there but only pauses. Switch on the play button once again and revive your interest in your done and dusted relationships to bring back peace, happiness and satisfaction in life.
Relationships can be healthy, unhealthy or even abusive. A relationship is declared to be healthy when both people involved in it feel free to discuss any topic of interest, are ready to listen to each other, trust completely and feel safe expressing their feelings or thoughts. At no point do people in such a relationship feel less valued or remain tight-mouthed about their difference of opinion. These guys put forth their views without hurting the opponent/attacking them personally and make decisions together.
Any relationship that revolves around the concept of domination (maybe one partner enforces power or dominates the other partner) can never be termed as a healthy relationship. Even worse is the fact that, those who grew up in a family of abuse might not even be aware of what a healthy relationship is. For them, physical (beating), mental (putting you down by complaining that you are over-sensitive, push the blame upon you for something that went wrong or trying to constantly keep you under control), sexual (intercourse without partner’s permission also come under rape) or verbal (disheartening someone with words, neglecting them or withholding affection) abuse is a part and parcel of life. When one of the partners in an intimate relationship abuses the other by trying to hold control or overpower the other one while being married, living together or dating, it is termed as domestic violence.
A critical sign of an abusive relationship is abstinence from spending time with loved ones, be it your family, friends or people in your social media. The abusive partner tries to isolate the other one from such social ties as they serve as protective factors.
What You Sow at Birth Reaps As You Age
No one is born with definite traits. It is true that genes determine our character and personality, but these can be molded and changed by nurture and environment which dominate every person’s life. Studies determine a set of factors that protect people from getting into unhealthy relationships as they age. How well an infant emotionally bonds with his/her parent can have positive or negative effects on the ability of the infant to nurture healthy relationships.
A healthy relationship between family members is vital for a child’s development. Parents are a child’s first role model and can educate children to learn to listen, understand other people’s feelings and act in ways that boost bonding between people and resolve conflicts. When a child picks on these, he/she develops a positive self-esteem and the courage to step out of the cozy family relationship and venture out to seek friends. A healthy friendship in turn prevents the child from becoming emotionally distressed. When a child is deprived of a healthy relationship at home, all other things tumble down and increases the risk of a future unhealthy relationship in a child.
Children yearn for love and when they become aware that there is even one member in the unhealthy family who cares for him/her, it can make a tremendous difference on their entire mental outlook. The caring adult might be a parent, sibling, teacher or another family member who constantly reminds or sends signs to the child in some way or the other that they care for the kid and also assures the kid of a constant support pillar available in times of need anytime. A good friendship that blossoms can also go a long way in life providing support and encouragement to the child.
A Harvard University study that started in the year 1938 and continuing until now is the longest running study on human development. It followed more than 700 participants and almost 60 of them are in their 90s now and still providing data for the study. Results showed that happiness and health was not a result of constant hard work, wealth or publicity but comes from our relationships.
Adults in a stable relationship are healthier, happier and more satisfied with life. On the other hand, unhealthy relationships affect physical and mental health of people than not in any relationship at all. Prolonged work timings, money problems and decreased time spent with family members add on to stress and mental agony. Curb stress and avoid mental agony with the practical tips available at www.firsteatright.com that can be followed by any of us.
Its never too late to start building relationships. You can join a club, visit a park or volunteer yourself for some good cause-all of which act as great platforms for meeting people and interacting with them. At the same time, one must also work towards improving existing relationships with family, friends or life partners. It is not mandatory that the relationship must be as smooth as butter and practically, all relationships have their ups and downs. Most important is the fact that you work on your relationship and stay true to it. Being in a relationship with anyone is not a duty but a way to take care of yourself too. Just like exercise or food, relationships are also an important ingredient for good health. Speak a few loving words to your parents, hug your spouse, kiss your child, meet your friends and greet your neighbors with a warm smile to rekindle the lost spark in your relationship.
Remember the one important thing that relationships matter at any age and you deserve to live happy and be treated justly by others.
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Dietitian & Nutritionist Dr. Nafeesa Imteyaz.