‘Actions speak better than words’ when it comes to certain important aspects of life such as helping someone in terms of need, supporting them during distress or being by their side when they need a shoulder to lean upon. It is equally important to speak out comforting words that encourage the person, motivate him/her to strive hard in life, express your concern/love/affection (whatever you wish to call it) to the individual involved and provide support. Of all the words spoken, ‘I love you’ stands as one of the most widely-spoken phrases worldwide helping people to express their deep-felt feelings. A phrase of utmost importance, it is slowly losing its virility as it is often used repeatedly nowadays.
Every human needs the three basic things in life-food, shelter and clothing-to survive and love ranks right after these for the individual to thrive and shine in this love-deplete world. Individuals sideline love as a term to express the relationship between two individuals whereas it is a universal term to convey warmth, comfort, the feeling of belonging, the message of ‘I am there for you’ and finally, the underlying passion between two people.
Money can buy anything in life but love! No amount of money you pay can surpass a mother’s love towards her child, a child’s love towards his/her parents and so on. When we realize this, the world will be a better place to reside with reduced number of child abuse cases, senior citizens homes and abusive treatment of elderly people. Until then, our mouths might utter the phrase, but our hearts don’t mean it whole-heartedly. Expressing or accepting love isn’t dispatching or procuring the phrase ‘I love you’ but also something that is genuinely conveyed through small acts that are feasible in real-time daily scenarios.
Affection Through Action
Some of the everyday ways in which you can make someone feel special and loved is:
Serve food: Why do we serve dinner/lunch at our big-fat weddings or parties? It is not an act that simply denotes our economic status but sincerely because the best way to make a person’s heart content is via making his/her stomach content! There are even studies confirming that sharing food or making food for your near and dear ones is an act of affection and a way of expressing love. That’s one of the core reasons why people use food as a means of bringing together loved ones during celebrations. This is the foremost act of selflessness that brings about mutual well-being and love amongst two people or groups of people.
Send a surprise lunch to your busy friend which might be a freezable one or ready-to-eat too. Quickly stir up a yummy dessert that’s loved by your mom/dad as a means of expressing your gratitude for all their compromises, sacrifices and what not!
Hugs & Kisses: Physical touch is one of the best ways to express love to anyone on this earth. Even those who don’t understand your indirect ways of expressing love via words instantly catch up on your hug or cuddle. Aren’t our little ones delighted to get a tight squeeze as soon as they wake up the first thing in the morning or just before dropping them at the school gate? A warm hug to a depressed friend raises burden off his/her shoulders to a great extent or the least, calms him/her down for the moment. Even couples love simply cuddling up against each other when they feel an underlying tension current between them. There are studies too supporting the fact that cuddling lowers stress, boosts immunity and increases love amongst individuals.
Gift Them: Nowadays, people exchange gifts so commonly that they have started losing their charm! Hence the trend of sending customized and personalized gifts to add a touch of belonging. A gift can be custom- or tailor-made only when we know about the opposite person receiving it. This is a great move by itself as the receiver becomes aware of the sender’s notions and his/her level of understanding. Avoid those flowers and cadies, jump onto something new and innovative to capture your loved one’s heart and soul. Maybe you can gift a personalized doodle, a keychain shaped as a football for your football-loving brother or some pens for your daughter who has her MBA exams in due time. There are various gifting options as well as health gifts available to please your buddy for which one needs to take a look at the website www.firsteatright.com.
Lift some burden off their shoulders
Every person has a daily ‘to-do’ list that seems to go on forever. Ticking off an item or two from the list with your little contributions might seem of mountainous help for the individual as it is a timely help! Maybe you can keep things in proper place in the house, do the laundry, put away used dishes or buy the required groceries for the next day. Enjoy the little help from your family that warms your heart and appreciate their efforts. Once you realize these small gestures, you are sure to acknowledge them as a form of love!
Ring them Up Unexpectedly
Texting or calling each other regularly is one means of expressing your care. At the same time, calling or texting someone randomly after a long, long time makes the receiver feel loved and this is in fact, more appreciated and desired! All of us love getting surprises and a rare call from our long-distance friend/relation has the potential to make our day feel fulfilled and complete.
Whatever it takes to love and being loved, do it! It is not a matter of expense or time spent but an investment on true affection, long-term relationship and a lifelong feeling of belonging with your friends/family members.
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